Restorative community

In Chapter 4, it talks about a community that was willing to connect with each other as a community. How much are we willing to adapt or connect with each other? It can make a huge impact on one's community. Of course it would take a period of time to trust and feel comfortable to be in the community. However, I believe it all depends on how much restorative mind you have, and how much you care about it.
In my experience, when I first came to America, I felt disconnected with the place I lived. Of course it can be a cultural shock. However, I was willing to belong in the community, even though I felt awkward and uncomfortable. What I started doing was observe people, the way of they spoke when they had conversations, the type of clothes they wore, their general philosophical views. I think when you really pay attention to what you hear, and what you see, one day you will realize it on your own, and will feel belonging in the community.
If someone feels isolated from the community even they have been living there for a long period of the time. That means maybe they do not trust the people in the community or not really paying attention to the environment around them or they have a tendency to refuse to accept the environment they have and is not willing to connect with others. It took me at least 5 years to feel comfortable living in America and to feel belonging here. However in order to belonging in one's community, it is not only time that is required. It is how much restorative mind you have and how much ability you have to adapt to different environments.
Moreover, you may not love and trust everyone in your community. If you are, that's a lie. Trusting everyone in your community might be a little different approach than belonging into group. However, trusting someone is a great influence to the community. If we are willing to trust each other, then we will have a better understanding of other cultures and be able to adapt it. I believe in order to make a strong bond with each other, we should be willing to trust each other and be willing to understand each other and that would make our community a better place to live.